No matter where you are, no matter the occasion, casual dress – slovenly in my view- seems to be the goal.
Back in olden days when I went to my grandparents house for a holiday every man wore a jacket and tie, it was part of making the holiday special. Us kids knew we were grown up when we could wear a clip on tie or bow tie.
The same was true for attending church, weddings and funerals. Was it all necessary? Not in the strict sense of the word, but it was a sign of respect, the fact that some people made it an opportunity to show off notwithstanding. And as I said, it made the occasion special.
Yesterday I watched a streaming of my granddaughters confirmation- COVID kept us from attending- a pretty big deal for Catholics. Each child approached the priest with a chaperone. I am still in shock at the way some of them were dressed – if you want to call it that.
Tee shirts, jeans, sneakers. A sport shirt with the tails hanging over a pair of shorts, etc. No respect given to what is supposed to be a solemn occasion.
Exactly what is meaningful and important these days? Some may argue that the dress is not important, the fact people attend church, other ceremonies is what is important. To that I say the time put into the occasion, the dress, is a reflection of attitude and respect.
If you run off to an important ceremony- important to the people involved at least – with no more effort than heading to a ball game or bar-be-que, or washing your car, you really don’t care – and it shows – at least to those of us who have been around for awhile.