Be Suspicious – taking advantage of seniors

Be Suspicious Paul Merriman  |  Feb 14, 2022

THIS IS NOT MY favorite topic. But it’s a necessary one these days—when a seemingly endless number of companies and individuals are intent on separating us from our money. Some of them will use any means, fair or foul. I’m going to share a story about a longtime friend whose kindness and generous nature were used against him when he was vulnerable.

As much as anyone I’ve ever known, my friend—I’ll call him Bill—was a gentle man and a gentleman. He treated everybody with respect. He was honest and trustworthy. And he was always willing to help somebody in need. A few years ago, after his wife passed away, Bill came to regard opening his mail as a daily highlight. We all know the usual content of the mail. If you separated your mail into two piles, one for people or organizations sending you money and the other for people or organizations wanting your money, almost everything would go on the second pile.

Now imagine that reality from Bill’s point of view: The mail is an important regular event, you read every piece of mail and you never want to say no. Bill’s generosity was his ticket to a growing number of mailing lists that charitable organizations bought and sold. Fortunately, Bill made friends with a woman who we’ll call Anita, a nurse he had met at a hospital during his wife’s last illness. Anita lived near Bill and eventually became his caregiver.

One day, when Anita stopped by his house, Bill told her he had just gone to the bank. What she heard prompted her to offer to help with his bills and finances. Bill always answered the phone, and the previous day he had said yes to somebody who asked him to wire money directly from his bank account. Bill wired $1,600. The following day, the same person called back to say that the wire transfer had not gone through. He asked Bill to send the $1,600 again. Bill went to the bank and—fortunately for him, but not for the scammer—the teller knew Bill. She not only stopped him from making that transaction, but also helped him report a fraud claim.

Anita soon learned that, in just one month, Bill had written 108 checks to 14 charities and political organizations. The checks were small, usually $10 to $25 each. But they added up to a hefty financial outflow. Then she found that Bill had somehow signed up for monthly withdrawals from his bank account for things like “internet repair services,” extended warranties on items he no longer owned and undefined technical support. He was unaware of these “services” he had been buying.

At his bank’s suggestion, Bill closed his account, though he didn’t want to because he had memorized the account number. Anita suspected that he was being taken advantage of in other ways. Oh, was she ever right.

She noticed he was receiving large boxes filled with materials that apparently were part of a “start your own business from home” scheme he had signed up for, thinking it would give him something to do. She opened one of the boxes and discovered it contained an invoice for $325 for “supplies and pamphlets.” The damage from that particular scam was much larger, as I discovered when I got involved. All told, Bill’s efforts to keep busy and be useful cost him more than $100,000.

Fortunately, Bill completely trusted Anita, and soon she got his financial affairs under control. Among other things, she persuaded him to let her review whatever checks he wrote before he put them in the mail. And she set up a laptop in a way that made it easy for them to monitor his bank account.

Unfortunately, many other seniors don’t have somebody like Anita to help them. Sometimes, the “helper” turns out to be the scoundrel. I knew a retired couple who relied on the choir director at their church for investment advice. When they inherited $50,000—a very substantial sum to them—they turned to this “friend.” The choir director was not a fiduciary advisor, and he had become very good at gaining the trust of parishioners. Maybe you can sense where this is going.

From any objective viewpoint, this couple had a pretty low risk tolerance. They could not afford to lose this money. Nevertheless, once the choir director learned of the couple’s inheritance, he persuaded them to invest in limited partnerships—thus earning himself some hefty sales commissions. One limited partnership was invested in a coal-mining venture. Another was financing a grove of palm trees in South America. With a friend like this, do you need an enemy?


Source: Be Suspicious – HumbleDollar


  1. I personally don’t know anyone who has been ripped off by grifters posing as financial advisors or friends or love interests of lonely old folks; but I sure read of and see on tv many instances of scammers. Check on anybody who may be a candidate for a scammer and get help if it appears a scam is in the works.


  2. My daughter-in-law is watching this happen to an old family friend. The friend is a widower and in a wheel chair and appears to be taking advantage of. She has no live family. My D-I-L and her mom drive 600 miles once or twice a year to visit their friend. They keep telling her to stop spent money on her love interest but she won’t listen. They are not there enough to prove illegal activitie and she says that she is in love and she is spending away her retirement funds. Who really knows ? There is nothing they can do and she won’t listen and slow down her spending. It’s sad.


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